By: Yooji Yang
What do you think when you hear the term “Tiger mom?” Tiger mom seems the mothers who are harsh on their children to do their works and not allow their children to play. Tiger mom is well known term for the Chinese mother. One of the reasons that Chinese mothers became “Tiger mom” is because of the One Child Policy. Since China has the regulation of having only one child within one family, the expectation from family to the child is getting bigger, and want this child to be success.
Amy Chua, the author of Battle Hymn of Tiger mother, is well known Tiger mom. Her two daughters, Sophia and Lulu, are “piano prodigy” and “gifted violinist.” In order to become succeed in such young ages, Amy made harsh rule to her children. They were never allowed: “attend a sleepover, have a playdate, be in a school play, complain about not being in a school play, watch TV or play computer games, choose their own extracurricular activities, get any grade less than an A, not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama, play any instrument other than the piano or violin, not play the piano or violin.” these rules seem harsh to the grown-up children; however, because of these strict rules and their “tiger mother,” Sophia and Lulu can have successful futures from their young ages.
However, not all the Chinese mothers are “Tiger mom.” “Most Chinese mothers are too busy working or simply not very tigerish.” “And working mums are often forced to defer child rearing to grandparents or to “the ayi”.” Due to the work, most of the Chinese mothers cannot become the “tiger mom.” Instead many families have Ayi in order to clean up their houses, cook, and babysitting.
By reading these articles, I realized how the reality is different from what I have known before. Of course, many mothers, not just in China, but all around the world, want their children to become succeed in the future. In China, One Child Policy gave huge impact to the parents to become a “tiger mom.” However, as the world changes and curriculums are slowly changed, “tiger mom” does not seem necessary for all the children. In my opinion, the children’s opinion is more important than their parents’ opinions because after all, it is the children’s own lives.
Questions: what is your opinion about “tiger mom”? In the future, do you want to become a “tiger mom” or just teach your children in your own way?